if this matters or not.
What do you think?
Have you grown more like your spouse or is it just too hard to disagree after a while? Or, as the article seems to say, were you more like your spouse to begin with than you may have realized?
I think I go through cycles of agreement and disagreement with ISHI. Sometimes I can’t figure out how we ever got together and sometimes it is just crystal clear. I think that is probably much more common than this article indicates. We certainly don’t look alike or even think alike–I am his ezer k’negdo, after all. But I also think that the bottom line is that you have to have a set of common values that will carry you both through those times of “what in the world was I thinking marrying that person?”. Otherwise, the dissimilarities will overtake you and it just won’t be worth it at all.
I think learning to surf the waves of life is the most important lesson of all.